For you who lives between chairs, sofas, and seats:

We spend our lives sitting. At work, in the car, at home. And yet, almost no one has taught us how to sit. It's not about a rigid, military "perfect posture." It's about finding the living posture that allows your spine to do what it knows how to do: be flexible, strong, and free.

Today I won't tell you to "sit up straight." That command often creates more tension. I'm going to reveal the secret of the two supports your pelvis needs.

Why your back hurts when you sit:

When you slouch, your entire upper body collapses. Your abdominal and back muscles "switch off," and the weight falls on your spinal discs and ligaments, which aren't designed for that. It's like leaving a bridge without its support cables.

When you sit too rigidly, you create constant tension that fatigues muscles and compresses joints.

The key is active balance, not rigidity or collapse.

The 90-Second Adjustment (do it right now while reading):

1. Feel your bones: Slide toward the front edge of your chair. Now, with your hands, feel down until you find the two pointed bones at the bottom of your pelvis (the ischial tuberosities, or "sit bones"). These are your support points. All the weight of your torso should rest comfortably on them.

2. Rock and find: With your hands still on your sit bones, gently rock your pelvis forward (arching your lower back slightly) and backward (rounding your back). Do this about 5 times. At some midpoint, you'll find a position where your spine feels tall and effortless. It's as if a thread is gently pulling the crown of your head toward the ceiling. That is your living posture.

3. Check the backrest: Now, without losing that feeling of height, lean gently against the backrest of the chair. The backrest should support your back, not hold it up completely. You should be able to feel that your muscles are still active, but rested.

What changed?

By sitting on your sit bones, you give your spine a stable base from which to grow. By finding the neutral balance of your pelvis, you allow the natural curves of your spine (the lumbar, thoracic, cervical) to stack gently, like well-balanced plates.

You're not "holding up" your body. You're allowing it to organize itself with intelligence. Fatigue and pain come from fighting that natural organization.

For today, every time you sit down:

Don't seek static perfection. Seek the tiny movement. Every 20 or 30 minutes, do the little pelvic rock. Rediscover your sit bones. Readjust your "living posture." Your body is designed to move, even when it's seated.

Sitting well isn't a postural punishment. It's an act of respect toward your own body, giving it the environment it needs to support you without pain throughout your day.

Wishing you a comfortable and well-supported Thursday.

Tomorrow (Friday):
I'll bring you "The Temple Massage: The 1-Minute Gesture That Turns Off Tension Headaches." A first-aid tool to always carry with you.